This morning I felt incredibly guilty. This pandemic is really starting to weigh on everyone, this last lockdown feels never ending and it’s all rather lonely.
My guilt came from feeling like I was doing things I shouldn’t, I felt like I should be able to cope with life, I’m on maternity leave so I should be enjoying my time off, right?
Well, this morning was another one of ‘those days’, there was no real reason for me to be feeling low. I’d slept, – which is all I can ask for with a three month old – the house was in a reasonable state and everyone was feeling ok. (I had an aches back but that’s not anything new.) Still, I woke up and didn’t want to do anything, get dressed, leave the house, school work, cooking, tidying, I was having none of it.
So, I didn’t take my 4 year old to nursery and I didn’t wake my 9 year old for her school meeting. Instead we stayed in bed until the baby needed to get up, then we didn’t get dressed, we lounged around. I got dressed, & did a few light jobs as I moved around the rooms. Eventually, I got the girls to get dressed and do some school work but in a very relaxed way.
I’m sitting here reflecting on my morning and thinking about why on earth I was being so hard on myself, feeling like I was failing my kids & my husband because I wasn’t doing what I was ‘supposed’ to be doing – taking one child to nursery and doing a full day of school with the other, whilst also looking after the baby and doing all the house jobs I want done.
In reality, I’m up and dressed, so are my three kids. I’ve done reading and cutting activities with one child and maths with another. We’ve had breakfast and lunch, I’ve put some washing away and new washing in, put the bins out, unloaded & reloaded the dishwasher, played Minecraft with the children & looked after my baby. I feel like this is quite a successful day. Tomorrow is a new day and I can try again to do those things I’m ‘supposed’ to, but for now I’m content cuddling my baby and watching the snow fall and not settle.
The moral is we could all be a little kinder to ourselves sometimes.